Traditional language: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. At its core, step 8 is about repairing relationships, with others and with yourself. Charlotte Kasl writes that being willing to make amends to ourselves and repairing that relationship is a challenging but important starting…

Traditional Language: Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. Potential alternatives

Last week, we read the quote “Change is, to some degree, a mystical experience, but it also comes from willful acts… Its a balance of the two. We can take action to change, yet the timing and the way it happens remains to some degree a mystery.” These actions don’t need to be huge steps.…

Adapted from the EDA Step WorkbookMake a grid with two columns. In the first column list any perceived shortcomings, area of shame, or other thoughts/behaviors you want to move away from – focusing especially on any patterns that keep you stuck in your eating disorder. Next to each, in the second column, list how willing…

Traditional Language: Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. The EDA Big Book writes that in Step 7, we realize that we can’t will ourselves to be free of our old thought and behavior patterns, just like we can’t just will ourselves into recovery. Instead, the we are called upon to ‘replace old patterns of…

At the most basic level Step 6 is about looking for these patterns of thinking that we cling to for safety but that ultimately keep us stuck (these could be wanting someone else to save us, wanting to “procrastinate” on recovery, thinking that there’s something unique about us that means we can’t recover, etc). Traditional…